Letters to Breathe » To the Other Woman http://letterstobreathe.com Read and Submit Anonymous Letters to anyone, about anything. Fri, 27 Aug 2010 18:58:09 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Please leave us alone http://letterstobreathe.com/2010/to-the-other-woman/please-leave-us-alone/ http://letterstobreathe.com/2010/to-the-other-woman/please-leave-us-alone/#comments Mon, 02 Aug 2010 19:10:07 +0000 admin http://letterstobreathe.com/?p=552 Crystal,
I realize you didn’t know beforehand that he had a girlfriend because you probably were doing the same thing i was when you found his profile. He says he is going to delete his myspace and stop talking to you. I’m not sure how to feel about this.

I wont believe that he is going to delete the profile and stop talking to you until it happens. The problem i’m having is that I feel like its not fair for me to tell him to stop talking to you because, if what he says is true, he told you he had a gf and things wouldn’t go past friendship, and he talks to you about life. I think he needs to talk to someone other than me and his family. I feel like i should be ok with him talking to you if it makes him feel better about things. But the whole situation just bothers me too much.

The fact that he hid it from me for a month bothers me. the fact that he lied about it multiple times bothers me. This just tells me that he didn’t want me to know because he knew it would hurt me if i ever read what was said between you two. Thats where i come from when i say that I dont like it. I dont want to happen anymore. I want him to talk to me and focus on me as much as he has done with you this last month.

If things continue, Im going to leave. I dont know how you feel about having that on your conscience, but if it were me in your shoes, i would feel like complete shit. I would feel like im a home wrecker who got involved with a wonderful man who had a girlfriend who loved him too much and did everything she possibly could to make him happy. That being said, it’s not your fault either. I dont know you, I know him. And it is his fault if he loses me. Hes the one that chose to pick you, someone he has never met, over the woman that he has said he wants to marry one day and have children with. The one that sacrificed everything she had when he was going to be homeless to make sure he wasn’t, when we had only been together 4 months.

I only say that im going to leave because he HAS said that he isn’t going to talk to you anymore. because he knows how i feel. I want him to be open with me about his feeling. and to be honest, the things that i have seen him talk to you about, he has talked to me about too.

Please stop. for the sake of both my heart and his. If you have any sort of feelings for him at all…you’ll stop. He would be devastated if i left. I know this because he cries when i talk about it. You have never had that sweet pleasure of seeing someone as strong as him break down over you. That shows me he loves me. You’re just a small temptation getting in the way of our happiness. It would be best for you to just stop and put your efforts toward someone available.

]]> http://letterstobreathe.com/2010/to-the-other-woman/please-leave-us-alone/feed/ 0 Dear Molly, http://letterstobreathe.com/2009/to-the-other-woman/dear-molly/ http://letterstobreathe.com/2009/to-the-other-woman/dear-molly/#comments Mon, 21 Dec 2009 18:26:47 +0000 admin http://letterstobreathe.com/?p=253 That man you met, and took to the beach, he was my husband. He left me to my own devices in an unknown city where I only knew a few people, and none of them well. This wasn’t your fault, he hid his ring and wooed you with drinks and dinner, never mentioning me. Apparently you both had fun.

I don’t like the changes happening in my relationship. I don’t like that he calls you almost every day. He says he won’t leave me, and he doesn’t even think you’re interested in anything serious, but I’d like it to stop.

I’d like it if you didn’t go on a holiday together. If you didn’t ask for bed-time stories over the phone. If you stopped sending him text messages so often and especially not when you know ahead of time that he and I have taken some leave to try to work things out.

I lied when I said that I was a-ok with parts of this. I’m not. He’s obsessing about you continuously while still professing his love to me. If things continue like this, I’m leaving. If you are as concerned about this possibility as you profess, then do the right thing and back off. Let us work things out and find our own way again.

- his wife.

]]> http://letterstobreathe.com/2009/to-the-other-woman/dear-molly/feed/ 7 Dear Lindsay, He Was Mine… http://letterstobreathe.com/2009/to-the-other-woman/dear-lindsay-he-was-mine/ http://letterstobreathe.com/2009/to-the-other-woman/dear-lindsay-he-was-mine/#comments Sun, 22 Nov 2009 20:51:22 +0000 admin http://letterstobreathe.com/?p=61 Dear Lindsay,  you didn’t know,  you didn’t know what kind of man he was to me.  He was the man that would never hurt me.  The man who I trusted with my whole self.  It was not your fault he went to you…we weren’t even really together at that point, so cheating is not the word… He lied to me, you didn’t even exist in my mind for the longest time.   When he told me of you I was so utterly crushed,  the one man I thought would never hurt me had lied to me over and over… had dated you for a month while I was ‘away’.

We talked everyday you know? While he was seeing you, he told me he was waiting, waiting for me to get better, to get home.  I didn’t have a clue he was seeing you.  The day I found out that you had ‘been’ I saw him differently.   He was not the man I thought he was.  Not the man I came home for.  

Because of you I can’t look at him the same way.  I don’t even know you, or what you look like.  All I have is a name and all these pictures in my head.. did he fall in love? Did you fall in love? Why didn’t he just tell me about you?

He was mine, the strong protective man that loved me so much that he would put his on life in danger to save mine, and that was proven, after all, that’s why I had to go away.  He was mine, and you took him, leaving me with a broken hurtful man that will never be the same.

Thanks for that… T.

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